Oh My, did that post draw out quite a few lurkers and ALOT of comments! First thank you to everyone who took the time to post. I really do appreciate it because it answered quite a few questions. Second, thank you to all the first time posters. Although you all listed a variety of reasons why you don't post, there are a few I would like to discuss.
1. Everyone has already said what I wanted to say so why should I leave a comment.
Think of it this way, don't you like a compliment. Even if you've heard that same compliment 50x that day! Doesn't it make you feel good...well share the love! I can't think of one of my blogger friends that doesn't like to hear a well done, I agree or disagree (when written politely of course), or a "dayum didn't you blow that one out of the park" comment...even if it's said 114 times! *LOL*
2. I didn't know you read every comment, so thought why leave an additional one.
Seriously, I don't know where this erroneous thought came from that bloggers posted things out into the blogosphere and didn't expect people to reply or wouldn't read their comments left on the posts.
To me blogging has always been about having a conversation with the people who read your writings. Okay, maybe I'm wrong...maybe I've misconstrued it. But let's start with, I like hearing what you have to say...good or bad. Now do I follow your advice? Some times because sometimes you see things in a different light that is appealing to me. And if I don't follow your advice it is because it isn't in line with what I'm envisioning for my garment or what I was thinking. But I would never put you down for it.
So for the record, I do read each and every comment ~ so comment away! And not only here but on all the blogs that you love...it encourages the blogger to continue to blog!
Finally, when you start to leave a few comments I do remember you! And you are already a member of the club because you show up every day to read the happenings...so leave a comment every now and then...ask a question...or tell me I'm plum out of my mind! *LOL* It's not like the blogging police is going to show up at your house and take away your computer! *smile*
The other really important thing that I learned from that post was how many of you read blogs through Google Reader. Wow! I guess since I log into blogger and read blogs from my follower's list than ramble through other people's blog lists (btw, thank you everyone for posting those on your sidebar) I didn't realize how many people used Google Reader. I also read blogs on my iPad coming home from work which does give me the ability to comment and doesn't have one of those small screens so I was totally unaware of the steps.
Lastly a few comments really touched me:
"But there's another thing (and maybe this is just an excuse) -- even if I were to leave a brief positive comment on someone's blog, I guess I figure it won't matter that much to them. I'm not much of an online sewing presence -- I don't have a blog and I am not a PatternReview powerhouse. So without any context on who I am, it seems like a generic "good job" comment from me isn't much more meaningful than just reading your visitor stats. We all do leave our traces on your blog and you must know that there are so many more of us out there than the comments you get."
Wow! Okay I want to disavow this thinking right now. To me...especially to me...everyone who leaves a comment is important! You do not have to be a PR Powerhouse, a well known blogger, etc. for your comment to matter. If you take the time to read my ramblings, look at my garments and even put up with my opinions than you are important to me! So join the conversation by commenting away...as I said previously after a few comments I will start to "know" who you are!
"I feel like I've been peeping through someone's window and they just opened the blinds! BUSTED! LOL!"
Okay this one did make me laugh out loud but you know there is some truth to it! I can see the numbers of people visiting my blog every day and where in the world you are coming from. Blogger makes stats available, as well as, the sitemeter counter that's on my blog...however, this is just numbers.
It doesn't take into account the uniqueness of people from all over the world who stop by and peek in my window *smile* on a daily or weekly basis. I guess me and the friends that were discussing this, just want to know you all better. So the next time you approach us at an event, when you say, "Oh I know you and read you every day," we can say, "Oh yes thank you! Love the comments or suggestions that you leave on my blog" instead of the generic, thank you for reading my blog!
Amy W. wrote:
"I didn't know a comment really mattered....or that the blogger made time to read all of her comments! But now....you've shed a huge flood light on the subject that it does matter....so with this...I'll take it into the next blog and be sure I leave a "calling card" of a comment...as the ladies of ole did in the Victorian times!!!!"
Amy can I tell you that I remember the first comment you left on my blog. I was impressed that you dressed the same way I did and that I was reaching someone like me. Love the Victorian calling card reference btw. So yes, comments do matter to me and my fellow bloggers!
"I guess I am one of those who does not always leave a message. Why? I think that I feel like I have not "put time" into my blog posts and I don't sew as much as others, so I think" who wants to hear from me". I know it is silly, but I am just being real with my thoughts. I am glad you posted your thoughts on comments"
As I stated above this was repeated quite frequently throughout the 114 comments that were left on this post. (Can you tell the amount of responses surprised even me!) However, this is so far from the truth. We all make up a sewing community and if you were invited to my actual home, you would have the opportunity to say something. Since you can't all visit me in NJ, you visit me virtually here at my blog home and I want you all to feel free to say or not say anything! See I am letting you off the hook here! *LOL*
Finally, I blog because I am passionate about sewing. My kids have a joke that if the house was on fire, I would be running around grabbing my sewing machine and as much fabric as I possibly could hold yelling for them to get out of the house...not actually grabbing them. I don't personally believe this is true...I mean I would have my sewing machine under my arm but I would be pushing them towards the door too! ROTFLOL!
All this is to say that I appreciate everyone who stops by my virtual home. I love when you leave a calling card or a comment (thanks AmyW.) and if you just need to stop and window shop (which is sooooo much nicer than peeping in the windows!) I understand! I'm just happy you stop by!